It may help to prepare your children for your divorce sooner rather than later. You could talk about what your children should expect to change once the divorce is finalized. For example, you may want to explain that your children won’t be living under the same roof anymore or that they should expect to change schools.
As you have this talk, you may need some help. You can read the following to learn more about how to talk to children about divorce:
Talk as a family
As you have this talk, it may be important to have everyone involved – including your spouse. This way there’s no confusion as to why the divorce is happening and neither parent is blamed for the divorce. And, your spouse may want to provide some input during the talk.
Gather enough information
However, you may want to wait until you’ve worked out some details of the divorce before you have the talk. You may mistakenly say something during the conversation that you have to retract. As a result, you may only confuse and upset your children.
Let your children ask questions
Divorce can be confusing for children. They may only have a vague idea as to why it happens or how it works. Your children may ask questions to better understand the process. If they do, you can respond in a manner that encourages them to ask more questions but doesn’t reveal too much information about the divorce.
Give your children time to proces
It takes time for children to process big changes. Depending on your children’s ages, they may need time alone. They may wish to spend more time out of the house with friends or close family members.
Prepare for your divorce
Talking to your children is a small but important divorce matter. As you prepare this talk, you may also need to make sure you understand your legal rights when discussing child custody.